On-Screen Couples Who Couldn’t Stand Each Other in Real Life

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Patrick Swayze initially believed Jennifer Grey, his “Dirty Dancing” co-star, was childish, and Grey urged the company not to hire him.

patrick and grey

Johnny (Swayze) and Baby (Grey) are the most adored on-screen couples in the 1987 picture. Although their on-screen connection was evident, their real-life connection was tumultuous.

“She’d go into crazy moods, pushing us to recreate scenes and again again,” Swayze wrote in his 2010 book, “The Time of My Life.” “She appeared unusually emotional,” he said, “often breaking into sobs if someone insulted her.”

Grey acknowledged their difficult relationship in her 2022 book, “Out of the Corner,” which began before “Dirty Dancing” began filming. She said that she was displeased by his actions when filming the 1984 action picture “Red Dawn.”

“Please, no. not him. ‘Please, anybody else!’ I pleaded,” Grey wrote when she learned about Swayze’s casting.

However, in an appearance on “The View” in 2022 May, she said that he persuaded her to alter her opinion about him during the screen test, as previously revealed by Insider.

“He dragged me down to the hallways and said, ‘I love you, and I’m so sorry. I know you don’t want me to make the movie,’ ” Grey said.

Even so, filming together proved difficult.

“The sexual connection between Baby and Johnny was everything, and I wasn’t feeling it. How was I expected to believe this guy? “she writes in her book, “In rehearsals, I could not help but notice Patrick’s irritation with me. It frightened me to think I’d finally had it with Kenny and was prepared to go, only to discover that I didn’t have it at all with Patrick.” “The friction between us injected a particular real-life struggle and intensity into the film,” she continued.

In her interview with People magazine in April 2022, she expressed her remorse regarding her friendship with Swayze, who died in 2009.

She said, “I wish I could be sorry to him” and that I hoped you change yourself for someone I wanted.

Nina Dobrev shocked “The Vampire Diaries” viewers when she revealed that she and co-star Paul Wesley “disliked each other” at the start of the session.

Nina Dobrev and Paul Wesley

 Luckily, the two are now certified besties, but Dobrev claims that for the first five months, the couple couldn’t tolerate each other shooting their session, even though their characters were passionately in love.

“I admired Paul Wesley, but I used to dislike him,” Dobrev said in June 2019 on the podcast “Directionally Challenged.” Cue the noises of “Stelena” fans throughout the globe breaking their hearts.

“But, of everyone on the ‘Vampire Diaries,’ I hang out with Paul the most. We were and still are probably the most similar. We get together a lot. We’re extremely close. I adore his wife. It’s amazing how time changes things because I never imagined he’d become one of my greatest friends, “She carried on.

Their characters had a similar up-and-down dynamic, dating for three and a half seasons before splitting up for real in season four.

Julia Roberts and Nick Nolte co-starred in “I Love Trouble,” and there was allegedly some drama on set. 

Julia Roberts and Nick Nolte
The two portrayed rival reporters competing for the same scoop on the same story before falling in love, but the title appeared to fit their off-screen relationship a little too well.

Trouble on-site prompted a story in the La Times in 1994. According to the article, the two actors did not get along and fought often.

Judy Brennan, a journalist, noted, “Roberts despised Nolte’s machismo and would mock and abuse her co-star. According to those on the set, he grew so frustrated with her behavior that he would do things to offend her even more. According to accounts, the tension was so great that the two paid more attention to stand-ins than to each other.”

Roberts recalled her connection with Nolte in a 1993 interview with The New York Times that took place during production, stating, “From the minute I met him, we kind of gave one other a hard time, and naturally we got on each other’s nerves.”

She went on to say that, although he may be, “He’s charming and lovely, he’s also nasty. He’ll detest me for saying this, but it seems like he goes out of his way to repel people.”

Nolte’s response was, “It’s not polite to refer to someone as ‘disgusting.’ She, on the other hand, is not a kind person. That is well known.”

Chad and Sophia Bush On the set of “One Tree Hill,” Michael Murray got married and then divorced — while acting on-again, off-again lovers Brooke and Lucas. 

Sophia Bush and Chad Michael Murray

On the set of the teen drama, Murray and Bush met, and they soon married after. However, they divorced in 2006, and after five months, they split. Despite this, the two continued to collaborate, and their characters even reunited a couple more times until Murray departed the show at the end of season six in 2009.

When asked when she last talked to Murray on “Watch What Happens Live” in 2014, She said, “one time my mother said to me that if you don’t have anything good to say, don’t say anything at all.”

During a 2018 visit to the program, Bush was questioned about the relationship again. First, she said marriage “was not a thing I genuinely really wanted to do,” hinting that the producers were involved. She then claimed on Twitter that she was mocking herself throughout the interview.

Murray, for his part, released a statement via his representative, stating, “Chad always handles himself professionally, and he would never marry for any reason other than love. He loves a happy family life with his spouse and kids thirteen years after his divorce from Sophia. He also said I don’t feel the need to engage in this type of activity, so I’ve moved on. 

Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams did not get along during the production of “The Notebook,” yet they went on to date for three years.

Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams

Director Nick Cassavetes said that the two struggled to be together when they initially began shooting the 2004 picture.

“Maybe I shouldn’t tell you this, but they weren’t getting along from day one “in 2014, Cassavetes told VH1 that Ryan even requested to remove McAdams to another actress. 

Ryan came to me and said, “Nick come here,” and I went to him, the director said. “And he’s shooting a scene with Rachel when he asks, ‘Would you remove her and replace her with another actress to read off camera with me?’ ‘What?’ I exclaimed. He replies, ‘I can’t.’ I don’t think I can do it with her. I’m not getting anything out of this.'”

“We walked into a room with a producer, and they began shouting and screaming at each other. I went away, “Cassavetes added.

After enabling them to let off some heat, the film was able to proceed, and their connection was a tremendous smash. Allie and Noah became one of the most famous couples in modern film history.

They’d even date in real life between 2005 to 2007. They temporarily reconciled in 2008 before putting their quits for good.

Charlie Sheen allegedly dismissed Selma Blair from “Anger Management,” in which the two acted as friends with benefits.

Charlie Sheen and Selma Blair

According to The Hollywood Reporter, Blair objected to Sheen’s work ethic and expressed her concerns, so Sheen dismissed Blair in 2013 through a horrible text message in which he called her a disgusting name.

Sheen mentioned his previous cast member Blair and his previous “Two and a Half Men” cast member Jenny McCarthy during an interview on “Watch What Happens Live” in 2017 Jan.

“I’d want to combine the two and then kick them out,” he remarked. “They both deserve one another.”

In “A Change of Seasons,” Anthony Hopkins and Shirley MacLaine played a fighting married couple, But they also feuded in real life.


In the 1980 picture, MacLaine portrays a lady who discovers her husband (Hopkins) is a cheater and he is cheating on her, and then she chooses to cheat on him as well, much to his annoyance.

Off-screen, things weren’t any better. Later, Hopkins referred to MacLaine as “the most irritating/unpleasant actress he has ever worked with.”

When asked by the New York Post in 2014 whether she’d like to work with Hopkins again or not, she didn’t answer that question. Instead, she said, “I never liked him either,” but she did add that “he was on the wagon at the time, and it was hard on him.”

The actors who portrayed Lorelai Gilmore and Luke Danes on “Gilmore Girls,” Lauren Graham and Scott Patterson, had no lost love.

Lauren Graham and Scott Patterson

Fans of “Gilmore Girls” watched as these two soulmates danced around with each other for seven seasons and temporarily dated for a season before breaking up. They didn’t even reunite until the series ended.

Their spiky chemistry, which made them so entertaining to watch, might have been influenced by their off-screen connection — or lack thereof. Rumors circulated that Patterson and Graham didn’t get along, and Graham confirmed it in 2005 in an interview with TV Guide.

“Our relationship is good,” she said. “I believe these characters have excellent chemistry, which mirrors our own. We’re not close friends, “Graham simply said, “No.” when the interviewer asked her if they were best/close friends.

Even though they played the classic fictitious will-they-or-won’t-they couple on “The X-Files,” Gillian Anderson and David Duchovny did not always get along smoothly on set.

Gillian Anderson and David Duchovny

Although they may have gotten along better in later seasons, when they first started working together on the show, they often butted heads on set.

Duchovny first acknowledged their less-than-perfect off-screen relationship in a 2008 interview with Metro: “We used to fight about nothing. We couldn’t tolerate seeing each other, “He said.

In an interview in 2015 with The Guardian, Anderson said that he and Jones did not always communicate with one another.

“I mean, well, there were times when we loathed one other,” she remarked. “I’m just saying that there were times when we did.” “The term “hate” is far too harsh. We did not engage in lengthy conversations with one another. It was quite strenuous.”

Nevertheless, she did mention that the couple “is closer… than we have ever been.

Armie Hammer claimed that he was written out of “Gossip Girl” at the request of a cast member; he appeared to imply that it was Blake Lively, his on-screen love interest.Armie Hammer and Blake Lively

Hammer’s character, Gabriel, was Serena’s love interest, and the two even tied the knot in Spain. Lively portrayed Serena, while Hammer was Gabriel. It seemed as if he would be around for some time, but in 2009, towards the end of the season, his character was eliminated and without explanation from the show.

During an appearance that Hammer made on “Watch What Happens Live” in 2017, He discussed his brief time spent working on the program.

Hammer was hesitant to take names when a crowd member asked him to identify the greatest diva working on the set. He did admit, though, that it “was a difficult program to shoot, and he didn’t wind up shooting all the episodes he was meant to since it was such a difficult filming.”

Hammer said, “It was also like, ‘Get him out of here,'” in response to the host Andy Cohen’s question about whether or not he had asked to be written off, hinting that someone else had asked for him to be written off.

After that, another guest named Chelsea Handler implied that it seemed like the issue was Lively.

Hammer answered, “No, no, that’s not what I’m saying,” as he grinned and raised his eyebrows at Handler.

On the other hand, considering all the issues Hammer has been at the heart of, Lively wasn’t wholly to blame for the tension that felt on set.

In “Some Like it Hot,” Tony Curtis likened kissing Marilyn Monroe to kissing Hitler.

Tony Curtis and Marilyn Monroe

“Some Like It Hot” featured Curtis and Monroe, who had previously dated as lovers for a decade. Unfortunately, their relationship deteriorated at some point throughout those ten years.

“It was like kissing Hitler.” when Curtis was asked what it was like to kiss Marilyn Monroe.

Later interviews revealed that he never stated it or was kidding. In 2008, he told The Daily Mail that kissing her was “terrible” and “she almost choked me to death by forcefully forcing her tongue down my neck into my windpipe.”

He informed Entertainment Weekly in 2001 that the celebrity was having “difficulties.”

“Marilyn in the film was everything but relaxed or entertaining. On the shoot, she drank a lot, “He continued.

Jennifer Aniston was reportedly upset that Tate Donovan, who was her boyfriend at the time, didn’t get a part in the movie “Picture Perfect” instead of Jay Mohr.

Jennifer Aniston and Jay Mohr

Aniston and Mohr played the roles of a pretend engaged couple who fell in love in the romantic comedy “Picture Perfect,” which was released in 1997.

In an interview with Elle in 2010, he was asked what Mohr considered his most embarrassing encounter with a female star. He said, “the leading actress was very irritated with my existence while I was on the set of the movie, and she made it known from the very first day.

He went on to say, “Even though they screen-tested some prominent actors, they ultimately decided to cast me in the main character even though I hadn’t done too many movies. The actress responded between the takes with a firm “No way!” You’ve got to be kidding me,” to the other actors working on the set. I would drive to my mother’s home and weep there.”

He declined to clarify whether it was someone else or Aniston at the time. However, on an episode of his webcast “Mohr Stories” in 2012, he revealed Aniston was upset over him being cast. He said she informed him that the studio had screen-tested six men and chose the one (Mohr) she hated

If, as the film’s title suggests, love lifts us to where we belong, its two main characters, Richard Gere and Debra Winger, were clearly on the ground.

Richard Gere and Debra Winger


A manufacturing worker called Paula, played by Debra Winger, falls in love with Zack, played by Richard Gere, in the film 1982. Zack is an Aviation Officer Candidate. She ultimately received an Oscar nomination for her work in the movie.

However, in real life, Winger did not like the person who played her co-star. She referred to him as “a brick wall” while also referring to director Taylor Hackford as “an animal.”

However, there was not any hatred throughout time. During an interview in 2002 with The Guardian, Winger said, “I see Richard Gere very often, and he sometimes makes light of the situation by joking, “Are you still saying horrible things about me?” We went through a rough patch in our lives, but everyone needs to put negative experiences in proper context.”

In “Kramer vs. Kramer,” Meryl Streep and Dustin Hoffman portray fighting ex-spouses, which resembles their real-life relationship. 

Meryl Streep and Dustin Hoffman
She was still grieving the loss of her lover, fellow actor John Cazale, who had passed away in 1978, when Meryl Streep first heard about the story that would become the 1979 film that would go on to win the Academy Award for Best Movie.

According to “Her Again: Becoming Meryl Streep,” a book published in 2016 about Streep’s life, Hoffman is said to have smacked Streep across the face, teased her about the recent death of Cazale, and even smashed a wine glass next to her without informing her of what he had done.

“He was goading and teasing her,” producer Richard Fischoff said, “using what he knew about her private life and about John to achieve the reaction that he believed she should give in the performance.”

These actors and actresses have genuinely shown that their professionalism exceeds their personal feelings. It reflects in their on-screen chemistry in the memorable roles that put them on the map of the entertainment industry.

Joshua Garner

Joshua calls himself nerd+geek who is also passionate about football. He enjoys comics, animes, and science fiction. He finds his comfort in writing about suspense, thrillers and science fiction shows and movies.

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